Life After Pain (A Walk Everyday May Blog)

  Hi Dragonflies, I think there are a lot of people that are scared of my father and I know there were people who gave up setting boundaries with my father because he would withhold love from them for setting boundaries with him. The truth is I am the only one brave enough to set boundaries with my father and It's true I don't feel close to my father and I dread the thought of spending time with him but that doesn't mean that I don't love him. The contradictory circumstances is that my father is also my abuser so I often feel two things at once. Most of the time I feel anger and hurt but that still doesn't mean the absence of love. It just means that the only way I can feel love for my father is when he is not a part of my life. I don't miss him like I would other people but it is possible to be strong and still feel love for someone abusive. It takes a lot of learning and soul searching but I am not ignorant to the fact that there is love at the bottom of all t...

Hi Dragonfly’s, I was so angry with the fact that my Grannie made my dad an executor of her will. I was also worried about my Uncle because I know how shifty my father is. Especially when it comes to money. I was considering taking my father to court over his abusive ways. I hated having to contact my dad over my Grannie’s other cat and it infuriated me even more that he wouldn’t let me have my Grannies house key just to catch the cat. He neglected her and he barely went to the unit to catch her. My father made a million excuses saying she was travelling with a pack of other cats and that she wouldn’t let you near her unless you got close to the other cats. (Which sounds false because I found her alone staying inside a brick wall) It wasn’t the first time he used animals or harmed them to get to me and my Grannie. When I was little he was tasked with taking care of my Grannie’s cat Dylan and he lost Dylan. He also gave up quickly trying to find him and told me to stop leaving food out ...