Life After Pain (A Walk Everyday May Blog)

  Hi Dragonflies, Although I am studying Early Childhood Education I also have a lot of empathy for children of all ages. I amy even work up the ranks of being an educator to primary school children and even high school children. I was intially working towards becoming a teachers aide but later decided to study childcare as it aligns with my desire to become a parent to living children. I love helping children blossom and become their best selves and so this blog entry is dedicated to teenagers naviagting domestic violence. When I was a teenager I was experiencing family domestic violence and I was also bullied at school. I know I had other friends who were having a worse time of it and I even had a friend who was experiencing online bullying. I didn't have the internet at home so I guess that's why I wasn't targeted online but I also saw my bullies as a challenge and worked hard to always have smart comebacks which would make my bullies look stupid. My bullies didn't h

  Hi Dragonflies, I wrote a post about this recently on reddit and I had 86 up votes and a few women commented saying they experience this a lot too and that it really annoys them. In the past two weeks I have been harrassed by strange men while I was alone twice. But I have also noticed that when I visit a local cafe in my neighbourhood which I would describe as 'mumcore' I don't get approached at all except by the workers. So it's in other public spaces that aren't predominately occupied by women. Yesterday was a strange day. Firstly I sat on the other side of a train seat and this older man preceded to talk to me as if he knew me. It was definitely like he had 'male character syndrome'. I was using my work app at the time and it called me as part of my sign in. Then he stopped talking for a while. It suddenly dawned on me that I could use this sign in technique to my advantage. So I got out of the app and signed in again. This time when my phone called me

  Hi Dragonflies, When I was young I asked about my mothers bad decayed teeth. I was told that she must be on heavy drugs but the only drugs my mother said she was on was marijuana which was bad enough. My family thought that marijuana wouldn't have contributed to her cavities. Upon writing this I found out that marijuana alone can cause dental cavities but I don't think it was marijuana alone, I think it was a combination of marijuana and a poor high-sugar diet. My mother also told me that she lost a tooth whilst eating a redskin lolly (now called Red Rippers). As of this moment, I have quit refined sugar for 7 days and I have heard that quitting refined sugar can improve mental cognition and moods. I have noticed that my memory and focus is better but I did cry a lot yesterday. Although I don't think the crying was poor mental health. I am still grieving the loss of my Grannie and I know that although I am in good mental health, every now and then I will cry because she w

  Hi Dragonflies, **Warning Spoilers Ahead** On Saturday night I watched a New Zealand film with my husband. It's an old movie. I was intrigued about a woman's love for her piano driving her in this story but I was also saddened and shocked that this movie was not just described as a love story but also a great love story. I initially felt bad for the main character who was mute. It was hard to follow at times but I quickly realised that this woman often put her needs and desires above her own child's. She allowed a man to touch her so that she could play her piano somehow he ended up with. I didn't understand how he obtained it as I was under the impression it was left on the beach.  The focus was often on the husband (who convinced the woman to enter a loveless arranged marriage) the Mother who was mute and the other man whom she was having an affair with. The poor child got pushed in the middle of the chaotic situation. The mother would also talk to her child like s

  This is my healing era and nothing is going to stand in my way. Hi Dragonflies, While I have been recently pondering my trip to Toowoomba and my Uncle and Aunty coming back to Sydney with my dad and his girlfriend I have had some really great stuff to reflect back on. I wrote a lot about what happened in this recent blog post  https://walkeverydaymay.blogspot.com/2024/04/how-i-braved-family-functions-despite.html  Just so I don't have to repeat myself haha. I spoke a lot to my husband and my closest friend about how I was so afraid of having to deal with my father on that trip and after that I decided to be brave and not let my dad dictate which family I spend time with. Not that he is trying to control which family I spend time with but my fear of him made me avoid big family events that he would be at. In the end it was not as scary as I thought it was.  I recently saw in a video on YouTube  that grey rock won't work effectively enough on abusive people unless you have done

  Hi Dragonflies, When I stopped talking to my Grannie I assumed that my entire father's side of the family was toxic. I do feel bad about this but I do know that it had a lot to do with my father. At the time I didn't understand how he was the way he was. I was aware that my mother's side was abusive (except my Big Gran and my Brother who passed) but having some difficulties with my Grannie at the time and then her going into denial about my father's abuse scared me to the point where I thought I was in danger from my entire father's side. I thought my Grannie would never take my father's side. As someone who has lost two children, I do feel like my Grannie went into denial because she missed her son and thought it was easier to try and get me to make up with my father, rather than deal with the real issues Grannie and I were having. I am only mentioning this for context as I forgive my Grannie and I forgive myself for not talking to her for all those years. I