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Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where a person makes you question your own reality, sanity, and memory to gain control over you. Examples include denying that an event happened, twisting facts, telling you that you are "too sensitive" or "overreacting," and making you doubt your own sanity. This is often a tactic in abusive relationships, but can also occur in friendships, families, or at work. 
Definition
  • A tactic of control: 
    Gaslighting is a manipulative behavior used to gain power and control over someone by eroding their sense of reality and self-trust. 
  • A form of abuse: 
    When used repeatedly, it can be a form of coercive control and psychological or emotional abuse. 
  • A breakdown of trust: 
    It systematically breaks down a person's trust in their own memory, instincts, and sanity. 
Examples
  • Denying and lying: 
    Denying an event took place even when you have evidence, such as saying, "That never happened" or "I never said that". 
  • Trivializing feelings: 
    Dismissing your emotions by saying things like, "You're being too sensitive," "You're overreacting," or "It was just a joke". 
  • Is not respecting boundaries a form of abuse?
    Not respecting boundaries and not asking for consent may be a sign of an abusive person. If a person isn't asking for consent and pushing past your boundaries, there's a good chance they're testing the waters to see what they can and can't get away with. Their abuse is likely to escalate with time.

  • What is a Narcissistic Smear Campaign?

    A narcissistic smear campaign is a narcissist’s attempt to tarnish their victim’s image, reputation, credibility, or character.

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