Bullying Needs To End

 




Hi Dragonflies,


Although I am studying Early Childhood Education I also have a lot of empathy for children of all ages. I amy even work up the ranks of being an educator to primary school children and even high school children. I was intially working towards becoming a teachers aide but later decided to study childcare as it aligns with my desire to become a parent to living children. I love helping children blossom and become their best selves and so this blog entry is dedicated to teenagers naviagting domestic violence.

When I was a teenager I was experiencing family domestic violence and I was also bullied at school. I know I had other friends who were having a worse time of it and I even had a friend who was experiencing online bullying. I didn't have the internet at home so I guess that's why I wasn't targeted online but I also saw my bullies as a challenge and worked hard to always have smart comebacks which would make my bullies look stupid. My bullies didn't have much success with words but they knew that I was very trusting so they played cruel pranks on me. 

One cruel prank was quite horrific. One of the popular boys in the grade above me asked me out (I think as a dare) and I initially said no but one of the girls in my grade said I was making a big mistake and to go back to him and say yes. So I did. After that, there were a few kids above me who decided to convince me that this popular boy liked me. So I spent the best part of a year chasing him and saying nice things to him. He would often tell me to piss off around his friends but if he was mostly alone he would smile and say nothing or say thanks. One time I gave him a Valentine card and he got his friends to rip it up and shove it in my mouth. I was lonely and abused at home so I was often hoping that he really liked me and I kept taking his abuse because I was hoping that at least he loved me. It was one of the most hurtful experiences of my childhood. Eventually, some girls got him to confess that he didn't like me. He told me that he didn't like me with a big grin on his face.

So during and after this time a lot of my peers thought there was something wrong with me. They labelled me as obsessed with this popular guy but they never reprimanded him for leading me on. Later some girls confessed to me that they set up the whole thing as a prank but didn't realise it would end up like this. They had no idea how devastated and unloved I felt. My own father and stepmother neglected me and abused me at home and I just wanted to be loved I was hoping that romantic love from this boy would make my life better. I didn't know how to handle the rejection so I prank phone-called his family at 6 in the morning for a couple of weeks. I regretted doing it but I wasn't taught how to handle rejection or anger healthily. To this day I don't think those kids knew how badly they hurt me and how cruel their 'prank' was. I still think about it to this day and wish I could tell them off and that what they did to me was so inhumane. So yes I have a lot of respect for the Dolly's Dream cause. Bullying needs to stop in schools because it can be so damaging to a child. My friend who got bullied online has severe anxiety issues because of it to this day.


Do it for Dolly day is on the 10th fo May 2024. Click here to find out more and get involved. Let's end school bullying!

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