Next Year’s Walk Everyday May Will Be A Bit More Low Key

 

This entry is an update on my Walk Everyday May plans for 2024 and and my healing reward system. So firstly I’m going to talk about next years plans. I currently have a lot going on in my personal life so I didn’t have the time to make my event live next year as originally planned and stated in the Hawkesbury Gazette. Instead there will be one podcast interview on our YouTube channel and a competition to encourage you to get involved. There’s also a surprise I am planning for you all but I will announce it closer to May so stay tuned and watch this space :)


You’re probably wondering what the above image is about. This is a little token I have made in place of a charm bracelet I will be saving for and designing. So basically I have a system that rewards me on my path of healing. It’s similar to the chip system recovering alcoholics have. So I count it from the last time I spoke to my dad. Each year I don’t speak to my toxic family I earn a new colour in the form of a charm/bell. So right now I am up to orange and I have two bells on this bracelet which represent 2 years since I cut contact from my biological family. The system is as follows:

Red = 1 year

Orange = 2 years

Yellow = 3 years

Green = 4 years

Blue = 5 years

Purple = 6 years

Pink = 7 years

Red Gold = 8 years

Silver = 9 years

Gold = 10 years

This is a reward system to help me stay on track with my healing because in the past every time I broke no-contact I was set back in my healing and personal development. Also keeping no contact with people you are related to is hard and well worth recognising as an achievement. Each year that goes by that I don’t contact them makes me feel better about myself and more empowered. :) I hope to inspire you to have a similar system.

P.s. I know I have a red and gold bell. It that’s because I didn’t have an orange bell. I will be getting one and replacing the gold one soon. I don’t want to skip ahead in my reward system.

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