My Father’s Girlfriend’s Disturbing Sense of Humour

 

Hi Dragonfly’s 

My toxic dad’s girlfriend had a very unusual sense of humour that made me very uncomfortable. She thought people with poo fetishes were funny and she found Gordon Ramsay’s antics hilarious. I remember feeling scared and threatened the way she laughed at how violent Gordon Ramsay was and how often he would swear. It was an angry swearing. I suppose it also comes as no surprise that my dad’s girlfriend is also violent. She would fly off the handle at me unprovoked for seemingly no reason. I felt more tense being around her than my own father but when my dad and his girlfriend were together I felt very very tense. They would often gang up on me if I had an issue.

Anyways sometimes my dad’s girlfriends humour was just cringe and other times it was scary. I suppose subconsciously I knew it was sociopathic to laugh at someone being abusive and causing someone pain. Now I know Gordon Ramsay is like a health inspector in business but I just feel like he could have more tact dealing with these situations. You can be kind and assertive at the same time. This is a concept totally lost on my dad’s girlfriend. I also feel for the woman who was called an idiot sandwich and turned into a meme. If you look at the expression on her face you can see how hurt and humiliated she is in this situation. That’s not funny.*

But what really broke my heart was when my dad’s girlfriend use to laugh when telling the story of how her mum chased her down and beat her when she was a teen skipping school. They’d both laugh at it and I thought that this was so sad. It was clear that my dad’s girlfriend was aware she had been abused by her mum but she chose to laugh it off instead of addressing it. It was clear that she can lie about healing but she won’t truely commit to healing. Sometimes I feel sad for her. 

To tell you the truth when I met my dad’s girlfriend at first I liked her. I saw the best in her and that’s what she wanted but I also see how she let abuse get the better of her by laughing it off and becoming an abuser herself. I use to believe that she destroyed my relationship with my father but you can’t break something that is already broken. My relationship with my father started to deteriorate when I started to have true awareness of my surroundings. My dad’s girlfriend knew of our difficult relationship and exploited it. I think she was jealous and thought she was destroying my life but she really did me a favour. She unknowingly helped me let go of a relationship that wasn’t working and forced me out of a home that was unsafe.

Sometimes things happen in life that are for our own good and having nothing to do with my dad and his girlfriend is the best thing I ever did.

If you have experienced something like this, feel free to drop a comment on this post :)

Or if this is a trigger for you call 1800 Respect or 13 YARN

**  The only time Gordon Ramsay was in a funny situation was when Ricky Gervais had a go at him and said “You think you’re so hard don’t you.” I felt like finally someone stood up to the bully that Gordon Ramsay is even though it was a joke on Extras.