Important Announcement About Walk Everyday May

 

Hi Dragonflies,


This year has been difficult in organising Walk Everyday May. I tried to get an app designed but it was too difficult and would cost too much at this stage. I've also been doing a course to further my career and I have still been grieving the loss of my Grannie. There's been a lot going on in sorting out her estate and dealing with what will happen with her ashes. 

Writing about the family violence that still exists which is my father, his girlfriend and my mother's side has been overwhelming sometimes. I don't have anything to do with my mother's side anymore and I am still estranged from my father. However, I have still had to manage being around my father when it comes to funerals, memorials and visiting other family members. I've had to navigate new choices in moving ahead with my family where I have close contact with some family members but remain estranged from my father, his girlfriend and my grandfather.

It takes work. It was much easier never having to see my father again but if I want to have some biological family contact which is good for me then I have to be in situations where my dad will be. So because these circumstances are hard and at times very overwhelming for me, I think waiting until next year where I will have finished my course and have settled into the new family dynamics that are now occurring, then I will be able to give this event my full attention.

In the meantime I will try to write as much as I can in this blog because I think it's important to write about how I keep my boundaries, how I cope with occasionally being around difficult relatives (my dad) and how to cope with changing family dynamics when you lose a matriarch/patriarch of the family. I take this seriously and I am sharing this journey with you all to help others and navigating healing from domestic family violence.

So this year I am not organising Walk Everyday May as an event but solely as a blog until next year.

Stay Tuned....For future developments.


p.s. I am currently having to learn and practice the grey rock technique more and I will write about this also to help others who need to practice grey rock with difficult family members.

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