My Decision To Keep Everyday May Going As A Blog

 



Hi Dragonflies,


As of recent I've made a desision that I will keep this blog going for odd occassions but I'm not focusing on making this an event anymore or writing as much about family domestic violence. This is because I have recently had a child and I feel like it's important to keep my focus on my child and my growing family. I want to balance talking about my toxic father when I need to but mostly focus on my little family. I think it's important to talk about these things to process sometimes but not to make my trauma my child's or to activate my flight or fight response. It has taken me this long to realise fully that I'm not powerless and my father now realises that I have him figured out and has changed his number because he knows that he cannot control me or my little family. He knows I will protect my child and that I'm not deluded in thinking that he could harm my child's development.

Yeah it is a hard thought sometimes. That my father yet again chose himself and his partner over me and now my child but I am relieved to know that he is at least not trying to push his agenda, only just being neglectful like he usually is. My grandfather has behaved in the exact way and it's no real loss when it comes to my grandfather. Anyways I also have study to focus on that will give me a career that will help me in being the best mum I can be. I feel like my focus in life has shifted more in advocating and protecting children just the way I should have been more protected. 

So I hope this blog still helps people and I will promote organisations that help people struggling with family domestic violence and I will write in this blog from time to time to help people who struggle with this issue and people who have overcome this issue. I will never go silent on this topic as I know that silence makes this issue worse. I just need to put the majority of my focus on my little family and sticking up for other children.

Thankyou to everyone who reads this blog. You are the reason I will keep doing this blog from time to time. Your support means the world to me :)

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